Discover How to Plan To Achieve Your Goals

Did you know that true success takes planning? Success is not something that is usually attained overnight, nor by chance. Most successful people have carefully calculated and planned their success; beginning with the end result in mind.

To illustrate, if you want to construct a home, you begin with the design stage - an image of the final product. You will design your dream home and take into consideration all the necessary elements such as space, lighting, etc. It's not until the home is designed, all the design elements laid out, and the finished product is on paper, that you can move on to the next phase. Having the image of the final product, you can work backwards and determine your cost, and hire the appropriate people. There is a lot of preparation that goes into building that home even before the work on the land begins!

In the same way, your success should not be left to chance. Success is attainable by all, but requires effort. Putting forth the right action; begin with knowing the right things to do, is a key element to true success. Sometimes people spin their wheels, but get nowhere. Just because your wheels are spinning, doesn't mean you're out of park or neutral!

Develop a plan and plan to succeed. Most people do not know how to properly develop a plan and list out the action items needed to execute their plan. Consider a trainer, coach or mentor because even with a plan the things that are easy to do, are also the things that are easy not to do; this can be the difference between your success or your failure. A trainer, coach or mentor is there to hold you accountable to do the things that you set out to do.

You also need to be realistic and patient, because even with a plan, things will not always go as smooth as you planned it or expected. Expect the stumbling stones. By anticipating challenges in advance, when you are faced with the challenges, you will have the wherewithal to stay in the fight; always keeping in mind that final, completed end result!

Just like the house, once you're out of the planning and design stage, and that foundation is laid solid deep in the ground, the actual construction of that final product will go rather quickly; and the end result is something you will love!

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Discover How to Develop Faith and Believe in Yourself

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Perhaps you have had a challenging past. A childhood that haunts you or perhaps there were situations in your life that brought you to this place of doubt and you want to learn how to develop faith and belief in yourself. Today, we are going to discuss how you can harness your own power to develop the faith you need.

Today, more and more good people are faced with challenges that threaten their very core of their spiritual self and self-esteem. It is no surprise that many people find it difficult to have faith and believe in themselves.
I myself faced many challenges with my own faith and belief in myself after having complications during pregnancy and gaining nearly 100 pounds and almost losing my first child. Thanks to modern technology they were able to save my son and for me it was a long road of lost faith and belief in myself. I can tell you that this is a lonely road but there is hope.

First Step: Your first step towards developing faith and belief in yourself is to accept that you are the maker of your own journey and your journey will be as hard or as easy as you choose it to be. This I believe is the hardest part and it was for me as well so be patient with yourself as you begin this journey.
When you learn to accept that the path you are on you helped to create you will begin to discover how powerful you truly are. A good way to tell what path you are on is by your emotions and how you are feeling about yourself.

If you are filled with bad thoughts about yourself this is where you should start your focus.

Second Step: Your second step is to begin to recondition your thoughts. This takes time and effort on your part. My suggestion in order to gain the maximum advantage and for you to start to see some positive results in your self-esteem and belief in yourself is to try a combination of techniques.
Write down some positive things about yourself. If you are having trouble thinking about positive things write down what you want yourself to be but write it as though the person you want to be is the person that you already are.

Read this to yourself several times a day until you have committed it to memory. Write it down everyday in a journey that you can look back on later. Recite it out loud or quietly to yourself this affirmation of who you are.
When you start to have negative thoughts about yourself...Stop. Replace those thoughts with what you have written down. Keep in mind that what you are doing is teaching yourself to believe in yourself again and it is a process. Never doubt what you can achieve for you are special and unique and a wonderful part of the world.

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Your Passion Your Success, why are they inexplicably Linked?

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What are you doing today? What are you thinking about today? Where are you on the ladder of life? Have you ever gotten on the ladder or are you just standing there and waiting for something or someone to come along and show you the way? Are you just waiting for someone to show you what you need to do? Are you just out there looking around to see what is going on? Well, no one can show you or tell you what you need to do because they are not you.. Perhaps, you are just standing there in the dream state and waiting for a good safe place to get on. Maybe you are saying to yourself, I need to get on half way to the top or somewhere above that to be happy and successful. After all, I deserve more and I see other people who have more. Maybe there are a few people out there who have things handed to them, but are they happy and successful or is it they have inherited the success of someone else. Who are you kidding, you are going to get knocked off. You have to start at the bottom and climb. Of course, you already know this. Of course, you are on the ladder of life, but you are probably not where you want to be. Why are you not where you want to be? It is because you have not figured out where you want to be. It is because you have not figured out that you can find happiness and success.

It takes passion. Maybe you dream the passionate dream and it continually eludes you. You must awake with passion and live your day with passion. Whatever you are doing, you have to live it with passion. When you go to work and you work with passion, you find that you become very accomplished at what you do. There is always a satisfaction, a happiness, a feeling of success when we do something well. Of course, you may not be happy with what you are doing, but you have to do it with passion if you are going to move on. Move with passion and you will likely move on to something that you like to do. If the passion is there, you will find what you will be happy doing. Of course, it is all about being successful in life. So if you live with passion, you will find success and happiness in life. If you really take a good look at what happy and successful people are doing, you find that they have a strong passion for life. It is not why some people seem to have everything, It is what is the passion. What is that some people are doing to be so happy and successful. It is because they have found the passion and determination, they are doing what makes them happy with a passion and that passion has led them to success.
Of course I hope it is understood that I am writing about having good passion.and not the unselfish passion that some people exhibit. Our passion in life influences every one around us. Others see our burning passion. Our passion should always be to do the good and right thing. It should always be to lift up and help everyone around us. It should be a passion to fight against discrimination. It should be a passion to always be charitable.
It should be a passion to help the elderly, the disabled, and those who are born with physical and mental impairments. It should be a passion to not discriminate against these people or any people in fact. When was the last time you opened a door for someone who is struggling with disability? Did you just stand there or walk on by. I see this everyday in life and it saddens my heart to see it happening. When we are living our life with passion, we should be living it to look at what is going on around us and be helpful to others. After all how can we be happy and successful, if we do not live the good passion. I have found that the most happy and successful people are living the good passion.

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Discover Why Your Passion is the Secret to Your Success

Hello again,

I'm writing to you today about a very, very important subject - passion. Now don't get this confused with your nighttime activities in the bedroom, that's not what I'm talking about. We'll discuss that later...
What is your passion? Do you have passion for life? If I asked you to get a piece of paper and a pen and write down 50 things that you're passionate about, would you be stuck after about three? Ok, calm down. I'm not going to do that! But seriously, most of us sort of "sleepwalk" through life not even considering if we're doing what we really and truly are passionate about in life. One thing I ask people is "are you passionate about your job"? Wow, what a loaded question, huh? Try that at work sometime, the blank looks are priceless! But have you honestly taken a hard look at what you do every day? Is it truly what you are good at and love to do? They say that if you are doing what you really love to do every day, and get paid for it, you will never work a day in your life.

Unfortunately, most people aren't doing what they love but what they "fell into" when they graduated from high school or college. I was in that club myself! I worked many years at a job I didn't like, because I thought it sounded good at the time. Well, if only I had tried a few things that I enjoyed doing, and followed my dreams, what a big difference it would have made in my life! My passion in school was mostly sports, but I never figured I could make it in that field. Too hard, too many things to go wrong, one excuse after another. Luckily I ended up in computers, which helped me start a business! But my passion is really writing, which if I had just found a few years earlier would have made me so much happier! Money isn't what I'm talking about, either. If you're good at something, and most people are good (or get good) at what they enjoy doing every day, you will figure out a way to make the money show up.
So take stock at what you really like to do, what are you skills - are you a good talker? Are you good at problem-solving? Can you create really great things made of wood? Figure out a way to use that skill, either creating a business from it or finding someone that is already in that field and copying what they are doing. Sure, it may take awhile to get a reputation as someone that has great skills at this new endeavor. But any price you pay will be worth it if you can finally make money doing what you really love to do! Your passion in life - and making money too? That's the best of both worlds!
Ok, there's more to life than just a "job" right? What other passions do you have in life? Ok, everybody has a hobby right? What have you had in the back of your mind that you "always wanted to try"? Something daring, bold, that would really make you feel alive! Try new things on a regular basis - get out of your comfort zone, expand your horizons! It doesn't have to be motorcycle racing or skydiving, but just something different. Even just a dancing class or art class at the local community college, learn a new language, take up an instrument, go visiting every museum in your state. There are thousands of activities that can push you to have the time of your life, get out there and live! As they say life is for the living, so make the most of it while you can. We all like to think we'll live to a ripe old age, but it could all end tomorrow. Don't let life pass you by, make every minute count starting today.
To you continued success and happiness!

Doug Hart, CHO of GetPassionForLife
I've spent many years studying psychology, philosophy, NLP, and motivation. My particular focus is on the biggest question in life - what makes us happy? Join me and maybe together we can discover more about what makes you happier in life. I think it's more of a journey than a destination, and I would like to make your journey much more exhilarating, passionate, loving, and unforgettable!

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The Real Formula to Your Self Confidence (Part 2)

Most people will find that they feel their best, think their best and act their best when they have good posture and act in a pleasant fashion.
Look at successful people you may know. How do they move? When they are talking, what do they do? Remember that success leaves clues. You can learn a lot about success and self-confidence by watching successful and self-confident people and doing what they do.
Using movement and gestures will not just happen to you. It is a very deliberate action that will require you to pay close attention to what you do and a determination to act. Ask yourself this question: "If I were the successful person I desire to be, how would I move? How would I breath, talk, look at people and present myself?" Now, start to do that. Is this a fake it till you make it thing? Yes it is. Before you knock it try it. Dale Carnegie built his whole philosophy of public speaking on the this principle. He taught his students that they needed to act the part before they lived the part. You will find it works. If you do not want to act that way till you feel it you will stay just as you are. Decision is always yours.
"Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy." - Dr. Norman Vincent Peale
We know that you can build the feelings of self-confidence by how you hold yourself, look and act. But the real battleground for self-confidence is in the mind. Self-confidence is all about what you think, your attitudes and what you believe to be true. If you do not get your thinking right, nothing else will last for long. The two areas all work together; the physical, and the mental, however, your thinking is the key to real self-confidence.
Have you ever thought about what you think about? Seems like a funny question, however, the vast majority of people never really think about what they are thinking about. They carry around negative and angry thoughts and wonder why they are not happy. They spend their time thinking about all that could go wrong in life and wonder why they are fearful and anxious. They think about how much work and effort it will take to succeed and wonder why they cannot get going on their goals. Ask yourself, "What do I think about most of the time?" Most likely, you will be surprised by the answer.

One of the differences between those who are success-minded and those who struggle to get their dreams focused and started, is how they think, not what they do. It has often been the case that some have read books or received some learning about success and yet never seem to achieve. They do all the "right" stuff but it does not seem to work as well for them as it does for others. That is because they are looking for what they do to be the key and what really matters is what they think about.
I have seen this in coaching people who wish to venture out into something they never have done before. Some will discover their dream, make a plan and approach it with the thought that they cannot fail and they will achieve this. No doubts and no questions. These people always, yes I said always, succeed in what they do.
There are also those who discover their dream and become excited about it. However their approach is, "I hope this works. Nothing ever really turns out for me the way I want it to." These people will always fail. Why? Because they have decided that they will fail before they even start. They have nothing to lose because they have invested nothing to win. When they fail they simply say, "I knew this would happen." Not only did they know it would happen, they planned for it to happen and they made sure it did happen.
Self-confidence is knowing that you will achieve that which you set out to do. It is not saying, "Oh, this is a piece of cake" or being arrogant and prideful. You know that there is a lot of work involved; it will not be easy or quick. However, you know that you will succeed and you will stay with it till you do. It all comes down to what Henry Ford once said, "If you think you can do a thing or think you can't do a thing, you're right."
Any study of success will find that the first and most important thing to get in order is your thinking. You cannot achieve all that needs to be achieved if you are thinking about failure. Success comes from filling your thought with what you want to achieve, how you can achieve it and what you can learn to move you closer to the goal. As Earl Nightingale said, "Every one of us is the sum total of his own thoughts."
Thinking is a deliberate act. You must chose what your thoughts will be and then work to keep them in line. The mind that is allowed to just run in any direction it wishes will always run down to the negative. It is our nature to think the worse and to allow fear to control our thoughts. Success-minded people work at keeping their thought positive and focused on the goal at hand. The human mind is a powerful force and only those who learn to use it for the good and to control their thoughts for the achievement of their goals will succeed.
We must always remember that out of all the things in the universe, the Creator gave us control over only one thing. He did not give us control over time, the weather, nature or other people. The only thing you have control of is you and your thoughts. Self-confidence give us the courage to take that control and become the master of our thoughts rather than our thoughts being the master of us.

"Confidence on the outside begins by living with integrity on the inside." - Brian Tracy
Several year ago I had a young man come to me for coaching. He was having a struggle in his career and personal life and felt he was "stuck in a hole" as he put it. We sat down to talk and the first thing he said to me was, "The one thing I don't want to hear is any of that positive thinking crap." I told him that in that one sentence he told me why he is struggling so much, that he will keep struggling in life and that he has no intention of changing that. Believing that I should not waste his or my time when no change will happen, I asked him to find a different coach.
Nothing is a more perfect kiss of death to success than a negative attitude. Negativity robs us of self-confidence and gets us to believe that we cannot succeed. Anyone who holds on to a negative attitude knows all too well that they never seem to move forward or achieve the level of success they desire. You just can't win with what Zig Ziglar called "stinkin-thinkin".
A positive attitude builds and strengthens self-confidence on an explosive level. When you feel good about yourself, your life and the world you live in, you know that success is there to be had. You get along with others and that is a key to any success. When people like you they want to help you and will present you with opportunities that others with a less pleasing attitude will miss.
If you have a position open and there are two people who have applied for it. One is very qualified and able to do the job. The other is talented but has not had the same amount of experience as the first. The first person however is negative and critical of others. The second person has a positive attitude and works well with everyone. Who will you pick? Of course the second - every time.
Success-minded people with positive attitudes believe in doing the impossible. They know that just because something has not been done before does not mean it cannot be done. In fact, they find the challenge fun and exciting. Because of that, they tend to find answers. I agree with American poet, Theodore Roethke when he said, "What we need is more people who specialize in the impossible."
A positive attitude does not only make others feel better and enjoy being around you, it will make you feel better and like being around yourself. It is just a fact that positive people are healthier, happier and get more done. When you see each day as a gift you tend to appreciate that gift and use it for the best. Positive people are grateful for all they have and for the ability to achieve their dreams. This builds the confidence needed to go after those dreams, no matter how impossible they may be.

"Often the difference between a successful person and a failure is not one has better abilities or ideas, but the courage that one has to bet on one's ideas, to take a calculated risk - and to act." - Andre Malraux
Success-minded people love a good quote. Reading any of my books, articles or blogs and you soon discover that I love a solid, meaningful quote. It is the wisdom of others passed down like fine treasures. English writer, Isaac D'Israeli put it this way, "The wisdom of the wise, and the experience of ages, may be preserved by quotations."
Quotations can be great self-confidence builders. It is like getting a pep talk from Benjamin Franklin, Abraham Lincoln, Napoleon Hill or countless other greats of our world. Here is an exercise that will prove to help build self-confidence and excitement in your day. Each day collect three meaning quotes. Things that you read that speak to you and encourage you. This is not hard to find, social media is filled with them. Try this for a week and see if it does not make a difference in how you think and feel.
Here is the catch to it all. Yes, there is always a catch. Quotes, as with all truth, does not make a lot of difference if you do not really believe them. Let's look at a few simple and common quotes. Each in its own way presents a simple but profound truth that when applied and believed can transform your life.
"What the mind can conceive and believe can be achieved." - Napoleon Hill
"You were born to win and the seeds of greatness are inside you." - Zig Ziglar
"Being confident of this, that He who began a good work in you will carry it to completion." - St. Paul
I am sure you have heard all these many times before and may even have them written down so you can review them from time to time. But ask yourself this: "How would your life be different if you really believed these words?" You see, many of us know all the right sayings and have heard and given great advice, but not many really believe it for a fact.
Self-confidence is the belief that you can succeed in life. It is not that you hope to succeed. It is not that you will succeed if everything works out right. It is not that you will succeed if you get the help you need. It is the belief that you will, in fact, succeed. You may not know how or when right away, but you know you will.
I am sure that you have heard or been asked the powerful question, "What would you do if you knew you could not fail?" That is more than something to stimulate your thinking or motivate your actions, it is a real and very important question. Your ability to answer this question will determine how you achieve your destiny.
If you knew you could not fail, how would you act? If you knew you could not fail, what would you attempt to achieve? If you knew you could not fail, what would you be thinking about all day? If you knew you could not fail, how would you communicate with others? What would your life be like if you KNEW you could not fail?
Here is why this is such an important question. If you believe that you could not fail to achieve your goal you would act and move with confidence. You would do what you may have thought impossible because you know now that it is not impossible. It is like the old U.S. Marine slogan: "The difficult we will do right now. The impossible may take a little while."

Here is an important fact. Take a minute to prepare yourself for it. Deep breath and sit straight up. Now read this out loud. "I can believe that I cannot fail because it is the truth." Get it? Read it again, this time with conviction. Believe it because it is a fact. For those who truly believe that they cannot fail, there is success every time. Why? Because if you believe you cannot fail you will never stop trying. If you believe you cannot fail you will always be learning and moving forward. If you believe you cannot fail you will be encouraged every day because you know if brings you closer to your goals in life. It is easier to stop a speeding train with your bear hands than to stop a person who believes that they will achieve their goals.
This where faith is a vital part of success-minded people's thinking. As a person of faith, I believe that I was created for a purpose. God had no quota to fill and I am not just a biological happening. It was God's intent that I be here at this time to fulfill a part of His great plan for all of creation. Now, if the Creator of the universe created me for a purpose, don't you think He has every intention to see that I fulfill that purpose? I do believe that and I believe that if God is for me, nothing can stand against me.
Be a success-minded person and live to achieve. Know and believe that as a success-minded person you can be confident that you will achieve your dream. What are the characteristics of a success-minded person? Simply, they are these: They do their best, have good manners, love God, discover the unknown and change their world.

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The Real Formula to Your Self Confidence

"Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy." - Dale Carnegie
I have been studying, writing about, teaching and applying the principles of successful living for close to forty years now. These principles are timeless, changeless and there for everyone to apply and benefit from. I have also discovered that the principles of success are often misunderstood, feared, misrepresented and lied about. None more than the principle of self-confidence.

The principle of self-confidence has been twisted and redefined into many things, none that truly represent what real confidence is. It has been called "Self-Centeredness" and often turned into a narcissistic search for self satisfaction. It is seen as an over inflated ego and people who are confident are the ones who step on others in order to get ahead. Self-confidence is presented as a lack of real ability replaced by a pushy and arrogant attitude that forces others to take notice.
Success-minded people need to understand that these negative descriptions of self-confidence are untrue. Real self-confidence is in reality not only a good quality but necessary for all success. Without it we lack courage to move forward, try new things and test our limits. It is a lack of self-confidence that leads to the mediocrity of many of today's leaders.

Have you lost your battle in trying to achieve your dream? Have you found that you know you can do better, have more and be successful in your dreams, but just cannot get yourself to do it? Few things will rob you of your ability to succeed, in any area of life, more than a lack of self-confidence. But to have that confidence, you must first understand what it is and how do you achieve it.
What Is Confidence
"Every achiever that I have ever met says, 'My life turned around when I began to believe in me.'" - Dr. Robert Schuller

Self-confidence is the knowledge and understanding that you have particular talents and strengths. It is the awareness of what you can do and the desire to do it with excellence to the best of your ability. Real self-confidence is not thinking you are better than everyone else but knowing that there are some things that you can do better than everyone else.
Where some may think that to have confidence you must have a big ego, the truth is that real self-confidence is humble and focused. The man or woman who possesses real self-confidence will do their job with excellence and not feel they have to let everyone else know that they did. Excellence is always recognized by those who see it. It is the person who lacks confidence in themselves who feels they have to point out what they do to everyone around them.

To be confident is to know that you have the abilities to succeed in certain areas of life. It is also recognizing that other have strengths as well and are better than you in some areas. This realization is not threatening to the confident person but celebrated. Just as they want to do their best, they rejoice in seeing others do their best as well. It is a lack of confidence that causes a man or woman to feel threatened but the success of others. Lack of self-confidence causes people to feel they are always competing with the next guy to be the best. If they are not seen as the best in everything; they become angry, depressed and nasty. We have all seen it before and it is never a pretty site.

Publisher, Marcus Garvey once said, "If you have no confidence in self, you are twice defeated in the race of life." To believe in yourself and your abilities is not prideful or egocentric. It is understanding that you must work hard to be the best at what you do. Why do you want to be the best? Not to show off or make others feel less, but you owe it to others to give them the best you have. To give any less is selfish and lazy on your part.

Why Do We Need Confidence

"No one can defeat us unless we first defeat ourselves." - Dwight D. Eisenhower
Helen Keller, a woman who faced more challenges and difficulties in her life than most people could even imagine, once said, "Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence." Why do we need to build confidence in our lives? Simply put, without it we can achieve nothing.
When you feel confident you have the courage to strike out and face the challenges before you. Self-confidence is the knowledge that you have the ability to achieve your goals. It is knowing that even if you fail at this attempt, you will learn from the mistakes, move forward and win in the end. People with confidence are those who develop the determination to keep keeping on, even in the face of great difficulties.
U.S. President, Abraham Lincoln was a man of great self-confidence. He failed in politics more than he succeeded, however, when he did succeed it really mattered. Starting with great disadvantages and many heart breaks, he was confident that he had something to give to his country. He was one of the more humble of all Presidents. Knowing full well that he could not do it alone, he build his Cabinet with the very best of the leaders of his day. Some were his enemies, yet he recognized their abilities more than their disagreements. He went on to become one of the most respected and cherished leaders in world history.

Lincoln's confidence was not a big ego that made him think he was better than everyone else. He knew he had to work hard for the things he wanted and he needed the determination to keep going, even when things did not go his way. He once commented, "I will prepare and some day my chance will come." Success in anything does not come because you think you are better. It will not come because you feel that you deserve it. It will not come because you believe it is your turn. It will only come when you prepare for it.
The motto of the Boy Scouts of America is, "Be Prepared". It is not wait your turn, go get it or you deserve this, it is "Be Prepared". Prepared for what? Here is how Sir Robert Baden-Powell, founder of the Boy Scouts put it, "Be Prepared... the meaning of the motto is that a Scout must prepare himself by previous thinking out and practicing how to act on any accident or emergency so that he is never taken by surprise." I believe that we also have to be prepared to succeed. When opportunity comes our way we must be ready and able to go after it. For the unprepared, opportunity always seems to happen to the other guy.
Self-confidence gives us courage and helps us to think clearly and correctly. There is no spending countless hours worrying about what we will do or if we can do it. With self-confidence it is not a question of "if" but of "when". If a person is thinking in terms of "when" they get their chance or "when" they face the opportunity, they will be prepared and ready for it. They will think of it every day and always be mindful of what is happening in their life so they do not miss a thing. Self-confidence makes us prepare and when we feel prepared we feel confident. You can see how this all build on itself and makes you stronger and stronger.

Building Confidence

Now that we have a bit of an understanding of what self-confidence is and is not; as well as why we need to build confidence, let's talk about how to develop self-confidence in our lives. I believe that some people have a greater ability to build confidence than others. There are those who's behavioral style leans to a more self-confident attitude and their nature is to build their confidence without a lot of focus or effort. I also believe that there are those who find it very difficult to develop self-confidence in any area of life. They are by nature shy, withdrawn and lack a real belief in their abilities. Yet, it is possible, and necessary, for every person to work on their confidence level so they can achieve the focus of their desires.
Self-confidence is an emotional force and therefore must be controlled and used. It is the same with anger, love, hate, passion, worry and other emotions that, if not controlled, can cause us great damage. At the same time, we cannot live without these emotions in our lives. They are like fire, when used and controlled, fire brings heat, cooks food, develops energy and more. Out of control and misused, fire is one of the most destructive forces on the planet. Fire has destroyed cities, taken countless lives and left total destruction in its path. Self-confidence that is not controlled and misused will lead to egotism, pride and emotional destruction. Self-confidence controlled and rightly used will lead to success, service and the fulfillment of life.
There are two distinct areas where we can deliberately and properly develop self-confidence. These areas are Physical, and Mental.
Building Confidence: Physical
"The more we do, the more we can do." - William Hazlitt
One of the best lessons I have learned from Tony Robbins is this: "Motion creates emotion". How we move and act has a great deal to do with the way we feel and present ourselves. This is a powerful truth for those who grasp it and use it. It will affect your health, your appearance and your attitudes.

Of the things I love to do, one of the best is to watch people in public places. I think that God must have hours and hours of entertainment just watching His creation. One of the things that can be quickly noticed is how people feel by how they hold themselves. People who are depressed, angry or burdened down with life tend to be slumped over, they walk slow and look down. Many will have a scowl on their face and avoid any contact with their fellow human beings.
On the other hand, people who are more positive and feeling good, tend to walk straight up with a bit of a swagger in their step. They move quicker and have a smile for everyone they come across. These people give the impression that they are happy to be wherever they find themselves.
Here is a test for you. Sit in a chair all by yourself. Let your shoulders fall and slump over a bit. Allow your breathing to be slow and shallow and look down toward the floor. Let the muscles in your face relax and frown. After a few moments take note of these things: 1) how do you feel? 2) what are you thinking about, positive or negative things? 3) are you happy or sad?

Part two: Now sit up straight and tall. Keep your eyes forward, breath deep and at a steady pace. Shake your arms and put them on your hips as if you were Peter pan and put a big smile on your face. Ask the same questions: 1) how do you feel? 2) what are you thinking about, positive or negative things? 3) are you happy or sad?

I hope you have found this article interesting and are feeling empowered and inspired by it...Join me for part 2 of this article tomorrow and please leave a comment at the box below. 

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How To Become Remarkable

Since ages, we have been taught in schools that man is a social animal. But, humans, unlike other members of the animal kingdom almost brand the members of their species as interesting, boring, jovial, melancholic etc. Some of such adjectives are used as compliments. However, remarkable seems to be one of the most flattering of compliments anybody would like to receive.
Being remarkable of course means that you are noticed by the society around or in case of a celebrity, then even by the whole world around! Just imagine yourself being chased by a large number of fans dying to get your autographs or to get photographed with you. Now, who would not like to be remarkable and get noticed by all? If you don't know how to do so successfully, there are ten easy steps to do so.

Step number 1: The first step only reminds you of what the world reputed English poet Alexander Pope said that a little knowledge is a dangerous thing. So, whatever field of life you belong to, acquire a thorough knowledge about it so that you can fulfill your tasks almost with perfection. It will boost your confidence as well besides making you a remarkable professional and getting you noticed at work. Even if you are not a professional, which is rare these days, you can brighten your life at home too by being totally dedicated to look after the needs of the home.

Step number 2: Always remember that it is the society around that would notice you. So being remarkable is not concerned so much with your self image as compared with what others think about you. If you want to get noticed, pay attention to your social image.

Step number 3: The next point to remember is that being remarkable doesn't mean only to get noticed. A murderer attracts the notice of the police, the people, even the media. But do you think that he is remarkable. If you are hated by others or laughed at by them, you are not remarkable.

Step number 4: Be ambitious and passionate about success. Be successful. The world does not treat the losers as the remarkable members of the society.

Step number 5: Be a man of character. Remember that acquiring success requires capability, but maintaining it requires character. During the ups and downs of life, try not to give up thereby losing whatever you have already gained.

Step number 6: Always focus on your goal. Remember that you cannot please everybody all the time. So stay focused. Be honest to your work. And success will be yours. And we know that a successful person is remarkable and noticed by the society.

Step number 7: Develop leadership qualities so that others follow you. The society should notice you to such an extent that it should start following you. It would be the greatest way you can get remarkable and get noticed by the society.

Step number 8: Be confident. When life treats you harshly, even then do not allow the circumstances to bring down your confidence level. Keep patience. Good times will come back again. Remember what Shelley said, "If winter comes, can spring be far behind." This way you will be noticed by others as your near and dear ones will also be able to maintain their confidence.
Step number 9: Don't let the success get to your head. Remember when you are successful, society notices you. But do not forget the small number of people who did so even when you were not a successful person. They will be happy if you keep in touch with them. It will encourage them to notice you for even longer periods making you more remarkable and happy in turn.

Step number 10: If you want to get noticed all the time, then try to be remarkable and noticeable all the time. In other words, try to be successful all the time. If you fail, even then make an effort again. Try, try and try again.
Finally, work hard, try hard. Think best. Do your best. If the results are what you expected, there is nothing like that. If it is not so, do your best again and pray to god. He would definitely help you become remarkable and noticeable if you make an honest effort. Amen!

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